Thinking from the mind and not from the heart erodes the whole essence of true relationship. I use the word true because not all relationships are true to friendship.
A relationship is a mirror and a friend is a second self.
A relationship consists of two basic elements - Love and Attachment – Attachment create’s the problems and Love solves them . Love is understanding that the other is yours, Attachment is wanting the other to be yours even though he already is. It is the desire for more that makes you expect, and as human nature prevails the more these expectations are met the more they rise. This creates a certain pressure on the bond, which can dilute its whole essence. If water flows out for long it can create a flood. We need to grow as one and as individuals, as a relationship has 3 identities - Me You and Us – there has to be a sense of equilibrium in the growth of 'Us' in order to ensure a sense of sustenance in the interaction that takes place between ‘Me’ and ‘You’. If one grows more or should I say away from the other, a disconnect creeps in. At times people move apart as they just grow out of the bond, when this happen’s its best to accept and not deny. Denial is the first step to acceptance, if we see it like that it’s a process , however, if we continue to hold onto it we are stopping our growth, and slowing down our journey to discovering what we are, what we really want and what we are capable of . When you fall down and then stand up, chances are you won’t fall that way again.
When a relationship breaks down, it is not the love for the other individual you try to get over or forget, It is the attachment that you have to get over. Hence, there is pain and regret. The love will never fade as love transcends relationship and bond. I am not saying that you will not be able to love another, you definitely will. You will pick up your bags and move on but If that individual calls out to you, the bags will drop and you will go back not as a lover but as a friend, and that is the beauty of love.
Relationship is existence. Life is not about the destination, It’s not about the journey, Its about the connections you make along the way, and that is relationship.
Our closest relationship is with our self. Only when there is peace within us, we will find peace in the world.
